If you're going with this where I think you are, JLS, keep in mind that while Utah has the highest raw population of Mormons of any state in the U.S., Idaho has a far higher percentage, versus the total population.

It was while at school in Idaho that I learned the "clean" version of the horrible adjective "hella." I mean, of course, "hecka."

Okay, I'm going to stick to the facts here, in part because I have several Mormon friends, but I testify (heh) to having seen the pamphlet available to all young men in the church, "How To Stop Yourself From Masturbating."

Wow. Thanks, internet!

Tip number 8 has the possiblity of backfireing... the subject may find himself extremely turned on by worms...

Yup. That's the one. Thanks, Mike!

maybe have a friend do it for you?

It's really disturbing, actually.

According to the pamphlet, if all else fails, ask your mother to come into your room each night and bind your wrists with rope, tying you down to the bed. Then she'll untie you when she comes back in the morning to wake you.

Any kid who *doesn't* develop a complex or six from that is superhuman or something.

You can't be serious. That's more than disturbing. And they think masturbating's a problem? No problem with Mom tying you down in the bed though. No sir. Yikes!

...but one suspects it might introduce the young person to the whole BDSM thing, which is probably also not, ah, kosher (as it were) either.

-There's someone in my head, but it's not me.-

Well, yeah, exactly. That's what I was hinting at when I mentioned the multiple complexes thing.

Seeing as how this is being run as a "family" site, I thought it best to allude to such things. But hey, whatever you can get away with, right?

BTW, more specifically, BDSM with a heavy Oedipal component.

This is generally not the sort of conversation I have with my residents, but Molly and I were discussing masturbation the other day. She has had several sexual partners, and in between she refrained from masturbating. Her idea was that if you know your body too well, and can easily arouse yourself and--is this the term?--come, have an orgasm, whatever, then your partner is at a disadvantage. Instead of exploring together, you just sit there and wait for the guy to get it right, and figure out what it is you enjoy. She and a mutual friend were discussing it a while ago, and I was somewhat startled to find he did not entertain himself thusly. I guess it is somewhat unnecessary, what with his fiancee and all.

sit and... wait for the... the guy to.... *uncontrollable giggling* get it RIGHT?!?

oh, hell no.

also, my money says the mutual friend was lying his ass off, as necessity has not a thing to do with it and if he's male and breathing, he's in entirely the wrong demographic to claim restraint.

*breaks out the blacklight and the flame-retardant suit* heh.

I'm with steff on this one. Totally. Please, ladies, don't assume that just becuase we parachuted into this unknown terrain, that we have a map and GPS to guide us. We've got a general idea of the goal and, usually, that's about it.

And no, bringing out the light sticks used to guide planes at airports is not overkill. It's almost always quite appreciated.

Perhaps I ought to take some notes, on the one in a trillion chance I get the opportunity to experiment? Number One: in case the Boy Scout comes unprepared, at least have a light stick.

Mia - don't sell yourself short. There's someone out there for you, just look where you like to be, and there he'll be! (That is, if you don't like bars, then don't go to bars to pick up guys, go to church or whereever you like to go).
On the main topic, my advice is the more communication the better, but we really oughta ask Monk, cause he's the real expert.
It's Amino world without Chemists

I married a man last month that I met on the internet three years ago. So far, so good on him not being an axe murderer!

~Mori

Like CNN and the Weather Channel: constant updates.

As for where to meet people... well, I dunno if I'm the best one to advise anyone, but I found mine on match.com two years ago. It worked out well for me, but Your Mileage May Vary.

I've recently met a great guy through eHarmony. :D

Glad to hear that worked out well for you, Cebu. Happy trails!

- My mind is in the gutter, but it keeps out the bad weather.

I beg to differ. If you get to know your body well, you can direct your partner to what feels good, and they get the satisfaction of sending you through the roof. And if you're not so desperately horny when the time comes, it's not all over in two minutes.

YMMV.

Hmm, I'm thinking more drastic steps are required.

Though if a friend is 'helping' before marriage, that might cause a different moral dilemma. :)

hypoxic, that's just silly. People wouldn't be embarrassed about it. I'm sure you've just never met someone that used to be in a cult. I mean - why would they lie? That would be like saying I was in some kind of cult..ha....ha...ha.


They are close friends, but no - the Zirconian Monk has given us his plan. His vision is all seeing. That is why it is wrong to lie. Admission of the one is like killing two birds with one grain of sand slipping through the hourglass of the universe.

But a cult? ha - don't be silly!

Please pass the Kool-Aid.


So.....it goes under the bay???

Where the hell's slugbuggy?